I do not trust my ex’s new girlfriend. Do I have the right to say who looks after my kids?
It is brutally hard to not have control over the care of your own children. Unless you have a serious safety concern for the children,[...]
How often should my ex be calling the children when it is my week of parenting time?
While your children are in your care, you have the right as a parent to set rules as to when, how and for how[...]
Is a biological parent automatically a guardian of their child?
This may surprise a few people, but no. A biological parent is not a guardian of the child if they do not cohabitate with the[...]
My ex doesn’t return the clothes and things that I send over to her house! What should I do?
I hear your frustration! When you purchase items for your child and then they are not available for them to use at your home, that[...]
Am I allowed to get my son’s hair cut? My ex always complains it is crooked and too short.
Absolutely you are allowed! In fact, it is your obligation as a guardian of your son under Section 37 of the BC Family Law Act[...]
My ex is making me drive across the city during her parenting time. What should I do?
My ex contacts me often during her parenting time and asks me to bring various items for my son to use while at her house.[...]
What items should I be sending back and forth to my ex’s house with my daughter?
Most items that either parent has purchased for a child are considered to belong to that child. These items should be going back and forth[...]
What tips can you share with me for communicating with my difficult ex?
Communicating with a difficult person is always challenging but it is especially tough when you need to co-parent with that person. I have created some[...]
Is it true that I could be paying child support for years after my child turns 18?
Under certain circumstances yes, it could be true! A child can remain a “child of the marriage or a child of the relationship” for the[...]
My ex says I’m an unsafe parent and only lets me see my kid once a week. Should I take her back?
No, you should not take her back. Your ex-husband just keeping your daughter is no better than you just keeping your daughter. When you first[...]
Can my mental health challenges block me from parenting my children?
As long as you are actively managing your wellness with a treatment plan that you are following and can show the courts the steps that[...]
I am wondering if my ex and I would benefit from having a parenting coordinator.
To determine if a parenting coordinator is the right option for you, ask these 2 questions: Do you already have a parenting plan or court[...]
I have my son during the school year. My ex gets the holidays. Can the court switch some dates?
It sounds like you have the majority of the parenting time with your sons. If you have an existing order, the courts will be hesitant[...]
My ex leaves me with all of our kid’s responsibilities. How can I get them to share the hard work?
Co-parenting is all about communication and negotiation. The first step is to talk to your ex and try to come to a more equitable arrangement.[...]
No matter what I say to my ex, it just makes things worse. How can I deal with this?
High conflict separations are more common than you might think. When you communicate with your ex, remember this acronym created by author Bill Eddy: B-I-F-F,[...]
What words should I avoid when I’m speaking with my ex? She gets angry when I say “my daughter.”
There are several words and phrases that may become tainted by the process of separation and divorce and this is one of them! I notice[...]
Every time I refer to my house as “home” for my son, my ex gets angry. What should I say instead?
The word home is heavy and loaded. It implies safety, security and belonging. When you tell your son that he will be coming “home” soon[...]
